In our society, there is often an obsession with the end goal of sex: the orgasm. We are taught to chase after that fleeting moment of release, believing that it defines our sexual experience. However, Tantra teaches us to shift our perspective and embrace the journey itself, rather than being solely focused on the destination.

The art of edging, a technique commonly used in Tantra, encourages us to prolong the sexual experience and explore the depths of pleasure. It involves approaching the edge of orgasm but then backing off, allowing the energy to build and intensify. By slowing down and savoring each moment together, we enter a state of heightened awareness and deep connection.

By relinquishing the pressure to achieve a singular goal, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities. Through the practice of edging and embracing the present moment, we often find that orgasms become more fulfilling, longer-lasting, and even more profound. It is a beautiful paradox that by not chasing after the orgasm, we actually experience it in a more profound and enjoyable way.

By slowing down, savoring every moment, and embracing the art of edging, you may find that your sexual experiences become richer, more fulfilling, and deeply transformative.

Embracing the Journey

In Tantra, we believe that by letting go of the attachment to orgasm, we can open ourselves up to a world of profound pleasure and deeper connection with our partner. By surrendering to the present moment, we can tap into the vast well of sensations that lie within us. This is where the practice of edging comes into play.

In the world of Tantra, we emphasize the importance of slowing down and fully immersing ourselves in the sensations of the present moment. By cultivating mindfulness, we can bring our awareness to the here and now, letting go of any distractions or preoccupations. This mindfulness allows us to fully experience and enjoy the journey of pleasure without fixating on the end goal of orgasm.

When engaging in the practice of edging, we intentionally bring ourselves or our partner to the brink of orgasm and then pause or slow down the stimulation. This pause creates a heightened state of awareness, a space where we can fully savor the sensations and explore the depths of pleasure. By prolonging the experience, we invite a more profound connection with our own bodies and with our partner, deepening the intimacy and creating a sense of shared vulnerability.

As we slow down and concentrate on the sensations, we become more attuned to the subtle nuances of pleasure. Every touch, every breath, and every movement becomes amplified, leading to a heightened state of arousal. This heightened awareness allows us to experience pleasure in its fullest expression, transcending the limitations of a quick release.

By embracing the journey and immersing ourselves in the present moment, we create a sacred space where pleasure unfolds organically, free from the constraints of time and expectations. This mindful approach to pleasure not only enhances our physical experiences but also nurtures our emotional and spiritual connections with ourselves and our partners.

Slow down, savor the sensations, and let go of any attachment to the outcome. By immersing yourself in the journey, you will discover a profound connection with pleasure, yourself, and your partner.

The Art of Edging

Edging is the art of approaching the point of no return, where orgasm seems imminent, and consciously pausing or slowing down the stimulation. This practice allows us to prolong the experience and amplify the pleasure in profound ways. Whether you are the giver or the receiver, edging can be a transformative practice for individuals of all genders.

When engaging in edging, both the giver and the receiver play an active role in navigating the edge of pleasure. The giver learns to read and respond to the subtle cues of the receiver’s body, while the receiver focuses on their own sensations and breath to stay just under the threshold of orgasm. It is a delicate dance of connection and communication, where each partner is attuned to the other’s desires and boundaries.

As the arousal builds and the intensity escalates, the giver may intuitively pause their movements or adjust the stimulation to prevent the receiver from tipping over into orgasm. This pause creates a suspended space of anticipation and heightened awareness. In this moment, the receiver breathes deeply, focusing on the sensations coursing through their body, fully present and alive in each exquisite moment.

The practice of edging is not about denying or suppressing the pleasure. Rather, it is about savoring every sensation, relishing in the journey towards climax. It is a celebration of the intricate tapestry of pleasure that unfolds within us. Through repeated cycles of approaching and pausing, the pleasure becomes more intense, building like a crescendo, until the moment when both partners feel ready to embrace the orgasmic release.

Even as the orgasm begins to unfold, there is no rush. The focus and mindfulness continue to guide the experience. Each breath, each touch, each sensation is honored and cherished. The orgasm becomes a gradual, slow unfolding, a deepening connection with the self and the partner. It is a profound surrender to the waves of pleasure that ripple through the body, allowing them to wash over and permeate every cell.

In the practice of edging, time seems to expand, and we enter a realm where the boundaries between self and other blur. It is a dance of pleasure and presence, where the journey becomes the destination, and each moment is cherished as an opportunity to experience profound connection and bliss.

Embrace the dance of approaching the edge, pausing, and savoring the sensations. Allow yourselves to fully immerse in the pleasure that unfolds, honoring each moment and celebrating the profound connection that arises.

Unlocking Pleasure for Women

For women, the clitoral orgasm is often celebrated as the pinnacle of pleasure. However, Tantra teaches us that there are various types of orgasms, each with its own unique flavor and intensity. By exploring different erogenous zones, such as the G-spot, the anterior fornix, and even the cervix, women can unlock a world of pleasure that surpasses the fleeting moment of a quick clitoral orgasm.

In Tantra, we understand that the clitoral orgasm, while incredibly pleasurable, is similar to a man’s ejaculation. It is intense and focused primarily on the clitoral area. However, by expanding our exploration and taking the time to delve into other areas of the body, we open ourselves up to a more expansive and profound experience.

When engaging in intimate connections, it is important to start with a gentle and loving touch, caressing the outer labia and gradually exploring the inner folds. As arousal builds, we can then turn our attention to the G-spot, a highly sensitive area located on the upper wall of the vagina. This erogenous zone, when stimulated, can lead to deep and intense sensations, often described as a “full-body” orgasm.

But the journey doesn’t stop there. With patience and a sense of curiosity, we can gently explore deeper, feeling around the cervix and venturing into the posterior fornix, and then moving around to the anterior fornix, also known as the A-spot. These areas, when awakened and pleasured, can awaken a profound sense of pleasure that transcends the physical and enters the realm of the emotional and spiritual.

It is important to approach this exploration with openness, trust, and communication with your partner. Together, you can discover the depths of pleasure that lie within. It may take time, practice, and patience, but the rewards are immeasurable. By embracing the multifaceted nature of female pleasure, we can tap into a wellspring of sensations that expand our understanding of pleasure and deepen our connection with ourselves and our partner.

In this journey of unlocking pleasure, it is not solely about the destination of orgasm, but the journey itself. It is about savoring the sensations, the intimacy, and the connection that unfolds with each touch and caress. It is about embracing the fullness of our being, allowing pleasure to flow through us, and experiencing the profound integration of body, mind, and spirit.

I encourage you to explore the vastness of pleasure that lies within. Embrace the journey of unlocking the different erogenous zones and allow yourself to experience the richness of sensations that go beyond the clitoral orgasm. With an open heart and a sense of adventure, may you discover the depths of pleasure and connection that Tantra has to offer.

Conserving Masculine Energy

Within Tantra, men are often encouraged to explore the practice of withholding ejaculation as a means of conserving and channeling their masculine energy. Unlike the intense but short-lived feeling of a typical orgasm, the experience of orgasm without ejaculation brings about a whole new level of pleasure and connection.

Through the practice of edging, men can learn to extend their pleasure and build sensations gradually. By slowing down and focusing on the present moment, they can explore the edges of their arousal, approaching but not crossing the point of no return. This mindful approach allows them to harness their sexual energy and experience more profound and expansive orgasms.

Taking the practice of edging a step further, men can learn to use techniques such as kegel exercises to control their ejaculation. By engaging their pelvic floor muscles, they can halt the flow of semen while still experiencing the pleasurable sensations of orgasm. This type of “dry orgasm” is said to be a full-body experience, where the energy of the orgasm spreads throughout the entire being, rather than being released solely through ejaculation.

Apart from the prolonged and intensified pleasure, the practice of withholding ejaculation has other benefits as well. It is believed to conserve vital energy, which can then be channeled into other aspects of life, such as creativity, productivity, and spiritual growth. This conservation of energy promotes a sense of balance and harmony within oneself, leading to an overall sense of wellbeing.

It is important to note that these practices require practice, patience, and focus. Learning to control ejaculation and experience dry orgasms takes time and dedication. However, even in the short term, the practice of edging and focusing on building sensations can greatly enhance the pleasure experienced during sexual encounters.

Through the practice of edging, kegel exercises, and mindful focus, may you unlock the full potential of your sexual experiences and cultivate a deep sense of connection and wellbeing.

The Power of Female Ejaculation

In the realm of Tantra, the female ejaculation, also known as “releasing amrita” or “squirting,” is seen as a powerful and transformative experience. It is believed to be a sacred release of energy and carries numerous benefits for the individual. By embracing the internal orgasm and the release of amrita, women can tap into a deeper connection with their own sensuality and spirituality.

In Tantra, the clitoral orgasm is not disregarded, but it is seen as potentially causing an energy imbalance if it becomes the sole focus of pleasure. By exploring and embracing the internal orgasms, women have the opportunity to experience something truly magical. These internal orgasms, often described as full-body experiences, have the potential to awaken dormant energies, unlocking profound sensations and a deep sense of spiritual connection.

The release of amrita during a female ejaculation is often hailed as a mystical and transformative phenomenon. Amrita, the Sanskrit term for the female ejaculate, is believed to carry numerous health benefits, including the potential for rejuvenation and even immortality. While the literal interpretation of immortality may be metaphorical, the release of amrita is seen as a potent energy exchange and a gateway to heightened states of consciousness.

Beyond its physical benefits, the female orgasm, in all its forms, is celebrated as a beautiful and spiritually significant experience. It is seen as a sacred dance of divine energies, a merging of the masculine and feminine within oneself. The orgasm is viewed as a gateway to the divine, a moment where the boundaries of the self dissolve, and we connect with the vastness of the universe.

By embracing the power of female ejaculation, women can tap into the depths of their pleasure and explore the vast realms of their sensuality and spirituality. It is a journey of self-discovery, self-love, and profound connection with the divine feminine within.

Conclusion: 

 Embrace the journey, let go of expectations, and allow yourself to experience the vast array of sensations that Tantra has to offer. Remember, it is not about reaching the destination, but rather savoring every moment along the way.